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How to Deal with Parents’ Separation Anxiety

by , 4th Dec 2016

Leaving your child may make you feel anxious. But what is the reason behind that anxiety? Once you figure out the reason and rationally think about it, it could help eliminate your anxiety.

Becoming a parent is truly a daunting task. It is a blissful moment when the baby is born. However, this comes with an overwhelming sense of responsibility and fear. Separation anxiety is generally discussed with regards to children. Kids develop this when their parents try to leave them with someone else. While kids adapt to the caregivers and forget their anxiety, parents may still feel the anxiety of leaving their kids with other people.

It isn’t easy to let your little child go, even for a second, especially in someone else’s care. However, sooner or later, you will have to get over your separation anxiety and these few things may ease your transition.

Get to Know the Babysitter

When you are too busy with your own work, you generally hire a professional caretaker for your child. You need to find a babysitter who takes care of the child. Interview the babysitter to see what type of person they are. It is important for the child and the babysitter to get to know each other and see whether your child is comfortable with them or not. Whether the babysitter is a hired babysitter or one of your relatives, you have to make sure that you child knows and is comfortable with them. This will reassure you that the child is in good hands and is having fun when you are not there.

You could ask the babysitter to stick to a specific schedule, which will make you feel a part of the situation. Remember to tell them to call you when necessary, but make sure that these calls do not become too frequent, as this would increase your anxiety rather than decreasing it.

If you feel like you cannot leave your child for an extended time period, then you can start by leaving your child with a babysitter for one evening. This could help reassure you that everything will turn out fine.

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Copyright: IVASHstudio

A Proper Goodbye

Giving a proper goodbye to your child is important for both you and the child. Remember that a long goodbye may upset both of you. So a short and proper goodbye will be comforting for both of you.

Don’t Show Your Anxiety in Front of Your Child

You cannot let your emotions get the best of you when you are in front of your child. You cannot expect them to enjoy the time they spend away from you if you can’t stop crying in front of them before leaving.

Parents get worried about how the babysitter would take care of their child and sometimes feel guilty for leaving their child with them. However a way to help both you and the child feel better is by developing a trusting relationship with the babysitter.

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Copyright: Potstock

Why Is It Making You Anxious?

Leaving your child may make you feel anxious. But what is the reason behind that anxiety? Once you figure out the reason and rationally think about it, it could help eliminate your anxiety.

Remember that even if you love your child, you require some “ME“ time. Without this alone time you cannot work efficiently. Your child will love you even when you come back from work.

Remember that raising your child may be the second most important job you will do in your entire life. The most important job you will do is nurturing yourself. You need time to recharge as well. Try to do this without feeling any guilt that you are leaving your child with a babysitter. As you will keep on growing along with your child just remember to nurture your child as well as yourself.

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